A couple of weeks ago, I posted a video about the importance of seeing the big picture. I talked a bit about how a lot of us feel like we’re being under-utilized, that our talents and gifts are not being used. This feeling can be really frustrating, leading to disappointment and discouragement, but I believe it is really important that you embrace instead of rejecting your circumstances. There’s just a really awesome dynamic that I’ve seen time and time again in my own life where changing my attitude about a situation that appears to be negative or even hopeless, actually has the effect of altering the situation itself.
Those of us with ADHD have been hearing about the need for routine, our whole lives! But guess what, having a routine is actually a benefit to all the busy people out there as well, regardless of whether they have ADHD or not. If you are making dozens, maybe hundreds of decisions every day, a routine can really help take some of the stress off.
Ever notice that when evening rolls around and you and your significant other are trying to decide what to do for food, it turns into the battle of the lack of wills? “Where do you want to go?” “I don’t care, you pick!” “I don’t care either. You decide.” And to your shock, you realize that you’re just too tired to make a decision. Not only that, but you start getting somewhat upset with your partner because they won’t make the call…on something as trivial as picking a restaurant or even deciding whether to go out or stay in. What just happened? Well, by the end of the day, your decision-making capital has been spent and now you just want someone else to drive the bus. A lot of stress in being a decision-maker is that you constantly have to problem-solve. That’s draining and when you’re drained, your stress levels sky-rocket, especially when you have to make yet another decision. But let’s say that the family routine is that you eat in every Monday, Tuesday and Thursday, but go out to your favorite Mexican place on Wednesdays and your beloved sushi place on Friday. You don’t even have to think about it because that’s the routine. See how nicely that can work out?
Dinner routine is just one example. Now apply the routine principle to what you wear, how you spend your holidays and when you go to visit your in-laws and see if those stress levels start dropping a bit.
I know that teachers who have students with ADHD in their classrooms are always looking for ways to help those students be more productive and attentive in class. There’s a great article on additudemag.com that’s called 40 Best School Accommodations for your ADHD child and I pulled out 5 of my favorite ways to help with impulsive behavior in class.
It’s really important to believe in something. Faith has a direct impact on what we do and why we do it. Trick is you can’t believe in just anything and you shouldn’t accept the beliefs of others blindly. KNOW why you believe what you believe. Understand the foundation of your faith by finding out what it means for yourself.
Sometimes, the small, boring, menial tasks we face on a daily basis can be a huge mental stumbling block in our pursuit of success. Why? Because they remind us (and sometimes rightfully so), that we are capable of much greater things and can handle a lot more responsibility. Here’s the catch though, if you’re really preparing yourself to be a leader, to live a life of influence, to become that person that others respect and listen to, you’ll need to learn how to do two things really well: 1. Look at the bigger picture and 2. Learn how to serve others.
Getting a grasp of this proactive vs. reactive concept is hugely important to not just how successful you can be in life, but also how happy, or shall we say, content. Becoming proactive, not waiting until something is handed to you on a platter (usually doesn’t happen anyway), anticipating life’s curveballs and taking responsibility for your actions is something that you must learn how to do if you want to keep moving forward in life with purpose.
What are you putting your faith in? It goes without saying that having faith in something bigger than yourself, a spiritual faith is vital. At least I believe so. But what about the other kind of faith. The one that takes us out of our comfort zones and helps us to go farther, bigger, better, faster?
While I love common sense, I’ve also come to understand that some things in life cannot be explained or pursued based on common sense alone. I think that it is impossible to succeed at anything in life without allowing faith to bridge the gap between the known and the unknown.
By the way, I took my girls to see the LEGO Movie this past weekend, helping contribute to the $69 million opening weekend revenues quite gladly (totally worth it!) and we loved every moment of it. The ending of course was what really “made it”. Not going to give it away, but if you’re looking for a fun, family-friendly movie to take the kids, this is the one!
While I’ve been busy painting hearts for Sam’s and mine, “grungy” heart art project, I’ve been neglecting to post more regularly, so today, I’m going to share another little video from a conference I spoke at last year.
Creating a culture of positivity actually ties in really well with all this heart stuff I’ve been working on. I love the variety that the simple heart symbol has allowed me as I’ve exprimented with different paints, glazes, sprays, templates and techniques (pure ADD candy!), but ultimately the reason I’m attracted to this project is because the visuals tie in so well with the philosophy of living life from the heart. And with positivity.
In the video, I recall a teacher who made a daily effort to come into the classroom and energize us, her students. I can’t imagine where that energy and love came from, except from the well-springs of her heart.
Look inside your heart today and try to tap into the positivity that lies within and share it with other people. And if you look deep and find nothing but sorrow, do not give up hope, but get around people who can support and embrace you with their positive energy.
Had a great time at the Penn State 4H Leadership conference! Thanks for having me!!
Everyone has a “to do” list! And if yours is like mine, it’s way longer than you can ever hope to accomplish in a day, a week and sometimes even a month! This can be frustrating and even deflate the motivation that you might have for getting things done because when you look at it, all you get is a big knot in your stomach and sense of being totally and completely overwhelmed. Believe me, I can relate! Not only that, but us ADHDers tend to attack our lists by doing a bit of a bull rush where we try and tackle a number things all at the same time and what ends up happening is that we get half way through a bunch of things, but don’t ever get the satisfaction of putting a big, fat “check” next to any of our to dos. This is also very discouraging and something I deal with myself on occasion.
So when I got into reading Heidi Grant Halvorsen’s article, I was excited to see a technique to help ease the stress of facing my “to do” list and make it seem more manageable. Heidi suggests categorizing our lists based on “when” and “where” the to dos need to be done. This helps with prioritizing and getting organized. So if you have to go to the store to pick up groceries and you also have to run by the bank – it helps to figure out ahead of time that the two are right down the street from one another, so that you should visit both of them while you’re out. As opposed to running to the store, coming home and then having to run out later to visit the bank. It’s a super simple concept, but it does require that we spend just a few more minutes with our “to do” list looking for connections like that one. For me, using Google Calendar has been a tremendous for helping me get and stay organized. What’s working for you?
My brother Sam and I, are both public speakers. When we started our speaking careers almost 20 years ago, we ventured out together. He would do all the speaking and I would top things off with my Speedscape performance. Eventually, we decided that we could impact more people if we split up and took our own unique message and stories to the masses. To accomplish this, Sam helped me to overcome my fear of speaking and develop effective messages and I taught him how to Speedscape so he could continue to have the visual element that made our programs so unique.
Recently, Sam developed an interesting message centered around The Heart and wanted something visual to go along with it, so he came to me for ideas and help. As we brainstormed on both the visual and the story-telling aspect of his idea, I became more and more inspired by the concept. SO much so, that I have been painting tiny hearts, in my kitchen, since mid-December! Today, I have 327 hearts under my belt so to speak and that’s only after a month of painting. Unlike most artists who put out limited edition art pieces, it’s my desire to put out as many hearts a possible! And not because they are for sale either! It’s because they are an awesome reminder. A reminder that the heart is so much more than just an organ, but is at the very center of our ability to be passionate, committed and courageous as we face life with it’s many challenges.
As a visual learner, I love the idea of augmenting the message about the importance of recharging our spiritual hearts with a piece of beautiful art. If you’re interested, feel free to hit our Etsy store. And I’m more than happy to personalize and customize a heart if you have someone in mind who can use the reminder to not lose heart.