I read somewhere a while back that success will come and go, but integrity is forever. That is so true! Integrity is basically doing the right thing at all times and in all situations even when no one is watching. It takes a long time to build up a reputation of being a person of integrity and only a second to lose it which means that you should never sell out or take the easy way out because the consequences can be serious and long-lasting.
Got one more video to share with you today from my video series about ADHD and relationships. (Check out videos #1, #2 and #3.) Today, I want to talk about money, marriage, getting organized and minimizing conflict! That’s right, that tricky subject that even those without ADHD or an ADHD spouse can get a bit uncomfortable about.
Many couples disagree about money – how it should be saved or spent, and things can be even worse when you throw in ADHD with it’s characteristics of impulsivity and disorganization. So what are some ways that couples can work together to make sure that their financial life gets and stays on track? In the video, I share a few different tips to help get you moving in the right direction.
Still I’m not exactly a financial expert so I invited Indy’s best known financial guru, Pete The Planner, to come and share even more tips about saving, spending and what us ADDers can do differently when it comes to money to help us stay away from overspending. I’ll be posting those videos next week!
Last Wednesday, I did an all-school assembly at Orchard Park Elementary! I had a blast! Sure the kindergartners were making bead necklaces in the front row the whole time and yelling out questions, but I stayed on track anyway!
The highlight for me was when during the drawing, Katy Perry’s Roar came on and the ENTIRE school started singing with the song as I completed my drawings. Talk about awesome!
A big thank you to Susanna at Orchard Park Elementary and Josh at Mercy Road Church for your help in pulling all this together!
I’ve been a fan of Mike Rowe’s show “Dirty Jobs” for some time now. So much so, that I made a video trying to entice Mike to feature me on his show. I know, I know! My job’s not really THAT dirty, especially compared to some of the jobs featured on the show (Chinatown Garbage Collector, anyone? Or how about Avian Vomitologist?? Monkey Caretaker??)
So recently when I stumbled upon this interview with Mike Rowe, I had to watch it. It’s pretty long, 40 minutes, but it’s fascinating. He has some really interesting ideas and thoughts about entrepreneurship, success, the skills gap and why FOLLOWING your passion is a bit of a misnomer and that you should instead BRING your passion with you. Well worth a watch!
When my girls were small, one of their favorite shows to watch was Veggie Tales. One in particular, they kept wanting to watch again and again – it was called the Fib From Outer Space.
It’s a cute story that shows how a small harmless lie can grow into a huge one. And how that huge lie can potentially destroy your life.
Kids learn very early on to tell stories and fib. Fear of being punished will have even grownups conceal the facts, but it’s important to teach our children that honesty is always the best policy.
Love this quote: “There’s no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” John Holmes
Generosity shouldn’t have a season, but we are definitely reminded and inspired to be more thoughtful, generous and giving during the holiday season. Call it the spirit of Christmas!
Even before I knew about the greatest Gift of all, my mother was already setting a wonderful example of what it was like to be giver. I’ll never forget her cookie baking sprees, where every corner of the kitchen and the house was filled with plates and boxes of amazing Christmas cookies that she gifted to everyone around her. I think some of that joy of giving rubbed off on me because I get a huge kick out of the whole gift-giving experience. Everything from planning what to get everyone, to doing the shopping, and the wrapping. It is not uncommon to have my wife refer to me as Martha during this time of year.
One thing I’ve learned that’s made giving even more fun is that it’s important to give out of your passion. Sometimes, we get caught up in the idea that there are just a few ways to give and make an impact: donating money, volunteering at a soup kitchen or participating in food or clothing drives, but there are as many ways to give as there are interests. And keep in mind that the subject of your giving does not necessarily need to be the most obviously needy member of your community. Everyone has needs and struggles regardless of their socio-economic status. If something you love to do, fits the need of another person, that could be a great opportunity for your generosity!
One thing I really love to do, is to celebrate the folks who made a difference in my life, especially the teachers that I had growing up.
In this video clip from a recent event, I talk about the importance of engagement. Not like, I’m going to get married soon, engagement, but the kind where you capture someone’s attention and keep their interest in whatever project or activity is on hand. In my case, my teacher’s “the project” was trying to get me & keep me interested in school and focus on my strengths instead of my weaknesses. It was no easy task, but my teacher persevered and ultimately I was able to reap the rewards of the efforts she inspired me to put forth with my schooling. Thanks Ms. Thielberg!
With my kids in school now, it’s not hard to see how a teacher can make it or break it, especially for those children who are not into school, don’t enjoy academics, or struggle with some aspect of learning. So if your kids have great teachers, don’t take it for granted! In this season of gratitude, show your appreciation and let them know that they are making a difference!
Recently stumbled on this video on Youtube and loved it! Not only is it well put together and creative, but its message is also right on as far as the role that ADD’ers play in this world. Very inspiring! Thanks to Andrea of The Art of ADD for conceiving it and putting it out for us to enjoy and share!
As a parent, I’ve had to deal with my share of fibs and outright lies from my girls, and I’ve made it a priority to teach them that honesty is the best policy. Lots of people lie, about big things and little things, but ultimately, the lying catches up with you. I’m trying to help my kids understand that while being honest can be very hard and even scary, not telling the truth will in the end hurt them more.
If you’ve spent any time at all on this blog, you already know how I feel about LEGO! (I’m not paid to endorse LEGO, but I probably should be!) Anyway, here’s LEGO’s newest ad and it’s pretty great! I hope they make one where they feature a daughter instead of a son, though….
About 10-12 years ago, when I was in the thick of learning all about ADHD and why I’d always been a little (okay, a lot!) different from the other kids, I came up with this quote which I then stuck on a bunch of t-shirts. The shirts sold like crazy at summer camps and youth events which made me realize that I was definitely not alone in feeling “different” and also that telling kids, and adults, that it was perfectly okay to be different was something all these people really needed to hear.
So, if you’re that person that doesn’t quite fit in, take heart! First, keep telling yourself that it’s good to be your own person and second, find your passion. Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing and what’s “in” right now. You have talents. I know this, because, EVERYONE has at least one thing they’re good at. Figure out what that is, and pursue it! Doesn’t matter if your “thing” doesn’t fit into the “doctor, lawyer, 9-5″ cliche. Believe me!
I love it when I’m sitting next to someone on a plane en route to my next speaking engagement and they ask me, “So what do you do?” I give them a crazy look, coupled with a long pause, and just as they start getting nervous that they’ve started a conversation with a mentally unstable person, I say, “I draw with chalk.” At which point, they become fully convinced that I’m a lunatic, but I go on to explain and about five minutes later, they start looking less frightened and a lot more curious and dare I say, wistful? How did I get into being a speaker? What’s the biggest group I’ve been in front of? What’s the coolest place I’ve spoken at? Have I ever been booed off the stage? My point is that I could have chosen a traditional career, but instead I pursued after the things that I was good at, art and being a ham, and here’s where it brought me. Hasn’t been a cake walk by any means, by would I have done anything differently given the chance? No way!
As many of you know, October is ADHD Awareness month, as well as Dyslexia Awareness month so I thought it’d be a good idea if I held a seminar for parents of kids with ADHD. The event is not restricted to just parents; If you’re a teacher who has ADHD students or an adult with ADHD, you’re welcome to attend!
I will do a short presentation sharing a bit about my background and then open it up for your most pressing questions. If you’d like to submit questions ahead of time, please leave them in the comments. Hope to see you there!
Here’s another video that addresses a very common problem that occurs in most relationships where one of the partners has ADHD – communication difficulties. I share a few more tips about how to have more meaningful and effective communication between you and your ADHD spouse (or you and your non-ADHD spouse). Check out the first video on the subject, HERE!