I spend a lot of time thinking about this thing called “self-esteem”. The idea of “self-esteem” was born sometime in the 19th century and has become a concept that has had a somewhat bumpy reputation. (Here’s a good little article that talks about the history of self-esteem , in case you’re curious!)
For my purposes, I use the term to describe how a person feels about themselves and the effect that this “feeling” has on their overall quality of life; How a person relates to others, what kinds of hobbies or activities they choose to pursue, the things that they tell themselves about themselves and the world around them, etc.
One thing that I’ve found really interesting when it comes to having a healthy self-esteem is how it can be gauged really accurately based on how much time and energy someone spends on comparing themselves to others. I think, that the only reason why anyone should be looking around to see what and how everyone is going is to learn from other’s mistakes, not to confirm that you are better than someone or obsess because you think someone is better than you. This type of thinking is a huge, HUGE waste of time!
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Everyone has something to offer. Everyone! If you’re out and about wishing to be someone other than yourself, then you are likely not noticing the very things that make YOU special and that’s just wrong! So please, if you are caught up in the grass is greener mindset, or you’re spending too much time envying others, stop it! Focus on you and figure out what you have to offer. Then once you get that figured out, give that talent, interest or skill all of your attention so you can hone and get to be the best that you can be at it. The road to success is definitely in that direction and not in trying to be someone you’re not!