Giving from the Heart

Love this quote: “There’s no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.John Holmes

Generosity shouldn’t have a season, but we are definitely reminded and inspired to be more thoughtful, generous and giving during the holiday season. Call it the spirit of Christmas!

Even before I knew about the greatest Gift of all, my mother was already setting a wonderful example of what it was like to be giver. I’ll never forget her cookie baking sprees, where every corner of the kitchen and the house was filled with plates and boxes of amazing Christmas cookies that she gifted to everyone around her. I think some of that joy of giving rubbed off on me because I get a huge kick out of the whole gift-giving experience. Everything from planning what to get everyone, to doing the shopping, and the wrapping. It is not uncommon to have my wife refer to me as Martha during this time of year. 😛

One thing I’ve learned that’s made giving even more fun is that it’s important to give out of your passion. Sometimes, we get caught up in the idea that there are just a few ways to give and make an impact: donating money, volunteering at a soup kitchen or participating in food or clothing drives, but there are as many ways to give as there are interests. And keep in mind that the subject of your giving does not necessarily need to be the most obviously needy member of your community. Everyone has needs and struggles regardless of their socio-economic status. If something you love to do, fits the need of another person, that could be a great opportunity for your generosity!


I now have my own blog on! Really excited about the opportunity to reach that many more parents and teachers! If you have topic suggestions that are centered around education for kids with ADHD, let me know! See link below to read my first post!

Go to Ben’s post on!


I keep coming back to the same conclusion: The right school can make a WORLD of difference in your student’s life. I want to go out on a limb here and say that it is better to blow that college fund on a great middle/high school than to hang onto that money. The foundation of self-esteem & love of learning is cemented early. Be vigilant about your child’s school! If you’ve got a great school – tell us about it!


Not knowing for sure that you have ADHD is like fighting an invisible enemy. It’s hard to fight the battle when you can’t see your opponent. Yes, a diagnosis of any mental disorder carries some stigma with it, but denial is worse in the long run. Don’t be afraid to seek help!


First: I had a blast in Flora, IL yesterday – great groups! Lots of laughs! Will try & post a short video clip soon. Second: I think we’re going to hit the “tipping point” with ADHD one of these days and all the non-believers & the naysayers will be silenced. It will happen sooner if all the people who “get” ADHD speak up & lose the fear of being ridiculed and/or judged. There are millions of us out there!! Let’s make a ruckus!!

Check out this article about “Silencing the Skeptics” on



I just saw a poll on that made me curious; 33% of people who responded said that an ADHD diagnosis in themselves or their kid made them feel shame & they were uncomfortable talking about the diagnosis w/others. 30% of people felt relieved as the big mystery of their lives was revealed, 10% felt regret at not knowing sooner, 8% were glad because now they could get treatment and “get better” & 5% were sad because the things that made them different actually turned out to be a “disorder”. How did you feel?


Most of us have a tendency to dwell on the negative in our lives; ADHDers even more so. That one mean comment or unpleasant conversation can swim around in our minds for days. Learn to let go. Don’t waste precious time obsessing about things you have no control over. Focus on the things that make you feel good; look for the positive! Have a great day today!


Remember that praise works better to motivate people w/ADHD to do the right thing than coming down hard with punishment & threats. Science has proven that ADHD is not caused by deficiency of character or morals, or poor parenting but that is a neurological disorder, like autism, or depression or OCD. Now go say something nice to that ADHDer in your life!


Larry says,

ADHDers are well suited for keeping pace with our DSL high speed society. Ben gets more done in a day than any non-ADHDer I know. HE’s like the energizer bunny. His energy can be contagious & often ignites me to greater productivity. His high quantity of work is matched by high quality. Ben does need to be encouraged to focus on prioritizing & completion. Once again, that’s when I show up.


Larry says,

ADHDers are entrepreneurs at heart. They ooze resourcefulness and creativity. Ben not only sees most everything with his physical eyes, he also sees possibilities in his mind’s eye that most people never consider. I love nearly all of his ideas but sometimes he experiences a brain overload. His mind becomes a tangled web of ideas. That’s where I come into the picture. 🙂


Larry says,

People with ADHD notice and hear just about everything that’s being done or said around them. They seem to have an internal sensor that is attentive to sights and sounds that those of us without ADHD do not have. Ben is more sensitive to detail, rarely gets lost, sees the funny in places & situations I normally miss, observes beauty in the obscure, and can be entertained by walking around Wal-mart.


Larry says,

Just like the grocery store tabloid, people with ADHD have “curious minds that want to know”. Ben is rarely satisfied with what he knows about any given subject. He loves knowledge whether it’s pertinent or trivial and anything he learns he remembers. Those with ADHD also have an insatiable hunger for having fun. Ben’s a big kid and would just as soon play all day if he could. Our travels are an adventure.


This week I thought I’d let Larry (my traveling buddy aka The Old Guy) do the Thought for the Day. Larry doesn’t have ADHD, but he gets to observe me up-close & personal + he’s worked with kids his whole life (as a pastor, counselor and teacher). I think he has some great stuff to share!

Larry says:

People with ADHD display a heart that is sensitive and generous to the needs of others. I saw this often in the students I used to teach who struggled with ADHD. They were the peacemakers, the ones most willing to share, and those students who consistently expressed compassion. That’s Ben; he hurts when others hurt and he loves to share his resources with those who are struggling.